Such much of lives are filled with others. We live with others, work with others, and play with others. Much of the time our lives are enriched by our connections with others, sharing experiences, sharing wisdom, sharing love. So much of this time shared has a positive impact on our lives, and yet we still find that we need a bit of solitude.
Solitude often gets a bad rap. So much of the time, solitude is portrayed as something that one would experience only if there were no other available option. But Solitude, most especially when sought out, when lived on purpose, can have enormous benefits. Solitude gives you the opportunity to filter away all outside influences and to listen to your own inner wisdom.
The poet Rainer Maria Rilke says it this way, “Listen to your inner self and your feelings every time. Should you be mistaken, after all, the natural growth of your inner life will guide you slowly and in good time to other conclusions,”. Rilke speaks much of the power and strength of solitude in achieving an understanding of one’s self. He suggests spending endless hours within one’s depth of solitude. He was also writing these words in 1904.
Returning back to 2018, it may not be practical for one to sit endlessly for hours at a time, sipping tea and staring out the window. However, living the often hectic lives that we do in 2018 may mean that the need for solitude has become greater than ever.
So I would encourage everyone, at the next available opportunity, to take some time for solitude. Allow yourself to get lost in your own thoughts, and not even with the expectation of necessarily finding anything. Recent studies have shown that our brains are still working out internal processes even when we are sitting around doing “nothing”.
Maybe the next available opportunity for you will be the next time you find yourself lying face down on a massage table. If you ever don’t feel chatty during a massage session, just let us know. We won’t be offended. In fact, speaking for myself at least, I would be honored to provide you with a safe space for you to explore the depths of your inner solitude.